I’ve always been drawn to the idea of memory books—be they beautiful baby books, tended over the years or volumes of “wisdom” gifted for birthdays, weddings, or birth preparations. My second nephew recently had a milestone birthday and his thoughtful girlfriend reached out to friends and relatives to offer good wishes, thoughts and photographs. As I consider myself very much a work in progress, I channeled some wise writers to help me with thoughts for Matthew.
As Shakespeare said, “To Thine Own Self be True.” Follow you heart and your instincts. Try to avoid what seems like an epidemic in our country—cynicism and bitterness. It’s a great temptation to indulge in those attitudes as one ages and endures life’s harsh blows.
As I know you are a mindful soul, stay in the day and enjoy all the little small moments around you. It’s never too late to change and move in a different direction. If things seem insurmountable, take them a little at a time. I’ve found that most of us spend a lot of time worrying about things that never happen or will ultimately work themselves out. To the extent possible, when facing a problem, do what you can and leave the rest to the universe or God or whatever you believe in. Make time for yourself everyday to reflect on what makes you happy and what you’d like to do better. Find God in nature and always remember the ancestors are with you.
Know that you have a big fan in me and that I would be honored to help you in any way that I can. Don’t be afraid to ask (me or anyone else) for help. It makes a big difference in facing life’s circumstances.
You are well on your way, and I forward to seeing your beautiful life unfold.